December 21

A sad trip to a funeral, Bob Aungerer, at Jeff City today. The sadness is of course is caused by the selfishness created every time a known dies. Poor us! Something has been taken away! A bunch of happy thoughts hang around but most will be ignored. Those are heavily weighted in favor of the deceased. In short, all the trials and tribulations as we know them will never be inflicted on them again. Too bad that I and most others can't grab the happy and avoid the for certain coming grief and bereavement. A very important happening it is said. I know for I looked it up.

Bereavement is defined as the objective state of having experienced the loss of a loved one. Grief is the psychological and emotional reaction to bereavement. Grief is a healthy, normal, and appropriate response to loss. It is a process of adaptation, with a number of signs or manifestations that are part of the experience. The first phase is one of shock, phase two consists of preoccupation with the deceased and then the final phase, is a period of resolution, heralded by the bereaved ones being able to recall events with sentimental pleasure and regaining an interest in activities.

I guess after all that the spirit of the deceased is, in part, alive in the memories they left to each of us.

I know it isn't necessary to type that I don't really know crap about this and most anything else for any reason other than to let you know, I am perfectly aware of the fact. Also aware of my stupidity for blowing about on things that I know not. But what the heck, I brave the act almost everyday. Thank goodness for the delete button..right?

The idea of death, the fear of it, haunts the human animal like nothing else; it is a mainspring of human activity - designed largely to avoid the fatality of death, to overcome it by denying in some way that it is the final destiny of man.~Ernest Becker